It took me two weeks, but I got rid of the panic that took hold of me whenever I met someone who started talking Chinese to me, then got mad I didn’t answer and yelled at me, while I flapped my arms like a chicken until they left.

I finally understood some patterns, so when I meet someone new I can just relax and notice details, while the panic takes hold of the Chinese, whom I can then calm down and make friends with.

This way, I can ask myself the question “Care-i subiectul?”, which is translated into English as “What’s the pattern?”